Respect Your Roommate
Brandon Hoto is a fourth-year English student.
Your living situation has an incredible impact on how you feel about university, and how you will perform both academically and within everyday life. This is particularly the case with your roommate(s). When it comes to getting along, here are a couple tips:
- Respect each other’s differences. No two people are the same; you are all unique individuals with your own habits and quirks. This may sound obvious, but if you understand this from the beginning, it will help you tremendously.
- Take some time at the very beginning to lay down some ground rules, before you need them (hopefully you don’t). Each of you should equally take part in creating the ground rules so that they meet your individual needs. If you do this at the beginning, the rest of the year should run much more smoothly. For those of you living in residence, your Residence Fellow has most likely provided you with a “Roommate Agreement”, where you lay down some of these rules.
For many of you, this is the first time that you had to share a living space with someone else, especially with someone who’s not a family member. This can be a huge adjustment and you will have to get use to their habits and personality which can be difficult. So, what do you do if things just aren’t working?
The longer that you wait to discuss your living situation, the more likely you will get more and more bothered by what your roommate is doing.
If it’s too hard to reach a conclusion amongst yourselves find a mediator that will be able to look at the situation from the outside. Your Residence Fellow will be more than willing to help you find a solution.
Sometimes, there is simply nothing you can do. Perhaps your roommate is entirely opposed to sharing a room with you for a specific reason. If the problem is unbearably bad, and you have tried your hardest to work things out, it is time to find a new room. In this new room, hopefully you will meet someone who you can work with on the points listed above.